“Weddings are supposed to celebrate the unification of our families—but we were being forced apart instead,” says Mina Jafari, an Iranian-American living in the U.S. For many of us, it’s impossible to imagine our weddings without our aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents surrounding us. Yet, like Jafari, many Americans have just been told that those relatives no longer count as “family” with the required “bona fide connection” needed, thanks to Trump’s travel ban.